PLAYING THE VICTIM (Short & Simple) There are individuals who willingly place themselves in difficult situations and then seek sympathy from others. However, when you choose not to intervene because they refuse to learn from their mistakes, they shift the blame onto you, playing the victim. It is important to remember that as an adult, it is their responsibility to handle their own affairs. At times, tough love is necessary in order to help others grow and develop. If you are always giving and never setting boundaries, you may find yourself constantly drained and taken advantage of.