ACCOUNTABILITY AND THE BLAME GAME
Accountability is when you understand and accept the consequences of your actions in the areas of which you assume responsibility, you take ownership of your actions.
Children as young as 10 years old can be convicted of criminal offences as long as they can understand what they have done is wrong, this is according to the ordinary standards of reasonable adults.
As you grow up you are responsible for the choices you make in life whether good or bad. We have all being guilty of passing the blame on to somebody else so we can justify our actions.
In my personal experience I have found the ‘blame game’ exhausting and carried a lot of anger and resentment with me for years. If I had the knowledge that I have acquired I would of saved myself the burden of heartache and the opportunity to heal and move on. I have since then regretted the time I have wasted.
I was accountable for my disruptive and destructive crazy behaviour but yet I put it all down to my past calamities. I am not saying that negative past events do not contribute to the present but I had the chance to accept things and move on.
I spent my life dwelling on negative things. The more I think about this, the more I realise that I was in mental pain and feeling sorry for myself, ruminating on pointless theories. I denied myself the chance to receive the gift of freedom of mind. Its as if I thrived on this negative energy.
I realise the damage I have caused myself and others who have had to put up with my negativity. I now know that the blame lies with me. I can no longer completely blame the contributors to my painful existence I had made the choice to carry this burden throughout my adult years.
As an innocent child you are not in control of your circumstances but once you have grown up you realise that this is your life, that you will have to take control of the situation and that you have to make your own choices regardless to what you have learnt.
YOU ARE ACCOUNTABLE FOR THE CHOICES YOU MAKE
YOU HAVE TO ANSWER TO YOURSELF FOR WHAT YOU DO
The last thing I would want is to be on my ‘death bed’ saying ‘if only I lived without fear of judgement’ because at the end of the day this is where we will all be at.
In order to move forward you have to accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can. (quoted from the serenity prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr)
‘Lord grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, and the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference”