AN EMOTIONLESS START

“Letting go of something that no longer serves you is the beginning of self-care.”

Time is wasted remaining in a potentially precarious situation.

If you did not experience exactly what it felt like to be loved as a child, you will probably search for affection in the wrong places as an adult. This is not to say this is inevitable; some people discover love but are unable to express it.

Typically, a parent who lacks empathy has a lengthy line of relatives who have perpetuated the cycle.

LOOKING FOR A SOLUTION

My personal experience was that I made an effort to avoid being emotionally connected with anyone.

The first relationship would last for ten years. I was raised to be a perfectionist, so I sought perfection.

I felt safe and secure enough to decide to take things further after a year of platonic dating. I experienced emotions that I was unable to control.

I was never able to experience that level of intimacy since I was raised to believe that having sex before being married was wrong. I lived a life of guilt.

I had no concept of what love was, having only been exposed to the poisonous experiences of others.